A letter….To Him…..
I realized that since my young, adult years in the church, I’ve taken pride and refuge in the male presence in my congregations. Grandfathers. Fathers. Uncles. Brothers. I don’t have close relationships with most of them, but their presence offered me a sense of security that I’ve lacked my entire life. And recently, that presence has seemed to fade to black. The ones that are present are posted up, but not making a difference. They seem ok with just showing up and have no urgency to lead the people of God or even be spiritual examples-lacking spiritual integrity. The church once disconnected me from the brokenness of my own blood family. No men. No leadership. No support. No protection. The church men represented for me hope, examples and someone I could at least point to and say to my girls….”that’s a good one right there”. But now, it is reminding me of the brokenness of my family and forcing me to feel like I have to lead there too. It grieves me on a different level because of what the church came to mean to me as a fatherless woman raising fatherless children. And once again, I feel like I’m being forced to wear the pants when I really want to wear a dress. Then get criticized for wearing the pants. *Sigh* This realization actually had me in tears. To be honest….I’m tired of clapping for men just because they showed up. Apparently, this has set a new standard of leadership and accountability. I think I’ll hold my applause for the ones that power up, not just show up. I mean, where do we draw the line between what’s meant as encouragement and what’s simply stroking an ego–an ego that’s built up on coming to class but never passing the test? I refuse to stop having expectations. I’m still looking for them to be present and make a difference; not just make dents. My nature won’t allow me to. I’ve learned that people will resent you for charging them and expecting them to do what they’re supposed to do. I’m cool with that. No one wants to be told that they’re missing the mark. Neither do they want to be told what the mark is. Especially not by a woman. Sooooooo….what now?
Signed
Sincerely, Grievously, Disappointed, Agitated, Frustrated
Her
*Tressa Jo
BeyondSeeLevel 
Mercy. Relatable.
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This is so powerful. I believe many women can relate…I know I can. I want to wear the dress…let me wear the dress.
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Oh Jesus Tressa!! Powerful and vivid!!! Well spoken!
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Oh.. the accuracy! #allupinthroughthismessage #speak
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Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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There was a time, when The Black Family Lived Integrity and Honor! What Happened to That LifeStyle?!?
Based on my Research, We were Divided!!!
Black Families Across this country are Divided, and the Biggest Division is the Lack of a MaleFigure!
what Caused this?!?
I’ll tell you this, It wasn’t by Accident!!!
It was by Design!!! a Design so Elaborate, Precise and on Point!!!
Television, Music, Books, Talk Shows and even Many of the Conversations we engage in have a Poison called Propaganda That’s been spread by those who see The Black Family as a Major Threat, and are (with Excellent Precision) Keeping us Apart!!!
It is NOT because Black Men are “so violent”, or are what white people describe as “super predators” that the population of the prison system is comprised of 52% Black!!!
Many of whom are Locked, because of planted evidence and with MAJOR TIME for very minor offences, as stated in a book called “the new “jim crow”
The percentage of individuals who are being freed from prison by Exoneration, are 90+% Black, which has Proven, WITH A DOUBT, That our so-called justice system was designed for Black People…ONLY!!!
This is Why I will not vote for ANY clinton, simply because the clinton’s are heavily invested in privte prisons!!! and NOT only that, they implimented laws, that has incarcerated so many Black Men, that the numbers are well into the hundred-thousands!!!
And now, according to statics, The imprisonment The Of Black Women HAS DRAMATICALLY been on the INCREASE in Just the Last Few Years!!!
In my Boxing Experance, We (Black People) are like a Boxer, who has been Hit with a Major Blow, and it Looks Like we’re about to get Knocked out, But we Continue to Throw HayMakers of Our Own, to keep the enemy off us!!!
as mentioned by DR. DeGury’s
We Keep Fighting, but are still way behind other cultures as it regard a unified family!!!
The Black family for the most part has been steered away from the arena of what it means to be a family!!!
I really want to go on, but I’m Placing a pin in it right here.
in the meantime, Take The Time, and Please watch these very important vids!
Dr. Joy on PDSS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O0wf5N–7aA
Michelle Alexander on Mass Incarceration:
The Most Dangerous Enemy, Is when They’re right in your face, and You Cant See them!!!
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