Everybody wants to be a ‘power couple”. The world definitely has its own definition and images for a power couple. We see celebrity couples in the media all the time, married or not, that have been deemed power couples. Why? Why are they considered power couples in the world? Moreso, why have the children of God chosen to use those images and individuals as examples for power couples as relationship goals. Particularly, when they have not made public declarations or professions that they have submitted their lives to the God of heaven?
Christians that want a God product have to be willing to submit to a God process. I think the fact that Christians have conformed to worldly systems to confirm, validate and pursue relationships, has crippled the coming together of “holy matrimonies”. It seems Christians are more guided by the world than the Word of God when it comes to seeking guidance on marriage and relationships. “Holy matrimony” doesn’t even seem to be primarily the goal or standard for Christian marriages nowadays. A simple matrimony will suffice.
People are seeking to be “Power Couples” that don’t actually have any power — at least, no Holy Ghost power. The deviation from biblical principles and the conformity to worldly systems has created a whirlwind of relational and marital dysfunctions in the Christian community. This deviation has created in us an out-of-order desire for purpose, but an insatiable pursuit for pleasures. What we desire precedes what God has purposed for our lives and for marriage. Therefore, we desire purpose, but we pursue pleasure.
My first consideration and question to anyone desiring marriage is: Why do you want to get married? What kind of marriage do you want? This determines how and who you pursue or consider as a mate. Let’s face it, measuring up to God’s design for marriage isn’t at the top of the “to-do-list” for many.
Therefore, when the question is asked “how does a person find a godly, ethical potential mate who sincerely desires marriage”, we have to first verify that the one that’s seeking actually measures up to that, themselves. That’s what you want, but is that really who you are? We must consistently live by those standards that keep us in the will of God and keep us from stepping outside of our God purpose, to be with someone that hasn’t stepped into theirs. God honors what we desire to honor Him with.
Walking in your God purpose won’t eliminate the desire for marriage or for companionship, but it will sanctify your desires and align them with God’s plan for your life. Godly, purpose living will transition you from having a “list” to having “standards”. You can check things off a list, but standards are designed to be perpetually lived out. And in order for something to come out of you, it has to first be in you. Therefore, to qualify a person by your standards (established by God), requires you to dig beneath the surface of what you see in order to learn who they are and to learn Who’s they are.
Walking in your God purpose won’t eliminate dealing with loneliness or lust either, but it will give you the ability to temper your desires and take refuge in God. When we check our hearts and intentions and align them with the will of God, concerning holy matrimony, God starts orchestrating godly unions that will glorify Himself; not just bring us pleasure. And as long as we discipline ourselves and walk in the Spirit of God, when/if God presents one of his submitted sons/daughters, we will be able to discern with the right set of (spiritual) eyes that he’s/she’s from God; and not carnal bait from the enemy that caters to our flesh, our deficiencies, our dysfunctions, our pride, our egos or our inner brokenness.
We will actively walk in wisdom and be more equipped to walk in godly contentment and discernment. We won’t fall victim to the Thirst Trap. And this will empower us to dismiss anything or anyone that’s contrary to our God assignment.
This waiting room takes patience. It takes patience for us to submit our own lives to God in order for God to shape us into the individuals He wants us to be for Himself; not shape us to be who we want to be for a man or a woman. Remember, God is a jealous God. And it also takes patience for us to wait for a God-sent man or woman. This is where the real power is.
Kingdom woman + Kingdom man = Kingdom couple = God glorification
*Tressa Jo
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