Monthly Archives: May 2019

The Leaves Don’t Lie

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A few weeks ago, my husband and I were in the yard doing a little yard work. Our primary goal was to trim the bushes in the front yard. Today, I noticed a bunch of dead leaves in the bush nearest the top. When I tugged at the leaves, the entire branch came up. I didn’t realize that the branch had been clipped completely off from the bottom. That explained why the leaves were dead.

Wow! That got me to thinking. Sometimes, we may be wondering why the leaves in our lives that were once so vibrant and full of life, start to wither and die. Leaves of relationships. Leaves of endeavors. Leaves of passion. Etc. We start to notice discoloration and disfigurement. But we don’t give it much attention because things still seem to fit. It’s not until we really start paying attention to the healthy leaves that we even notice the dead ones.

The leaves didn’t die because I wanted them to die. They didn’t die because they were sick. They didn’t die because they were neglected. They died because what they were attached to, was cut off. They were disconnected from what gave them life.

Think about your life. How many times have things in your life died because they were disconnected from what gave them life? Relationships? Endeavors? Passions? The leaves remained in place even though they were lifeless. The dead leaves didn’t move until I moved them. Even if I chose to leave the dead branch in place to fill that hole, the evidence of the dead leaves would have told the truth about the branch they were attached to. The truth is, something was dead and no longer producing life. The leaves don’t lie!

Matthew 17:6

By their fruit you will recognize them.

The leaves were still legitimately leaves. The bush was still legitimately a bush. But that particular branch no longer produced because it was disconnected from it’s life source. It had been cut completely off.

Someย of us will think about the people in our lives that we need to cut off. Some will remember those that we’ve allowed to hold a place in our lives that give no life. Then some of us will think about how bad those dead leaves make our lives look from the outside.

But what about you? What about God being the tree and you being a branch? What do your leaves look like? Are you producing fruit?

John 15:2

He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.

Just like the leaves on the bush in my front yard, our leaves don’t lie. If we’re not producing, what will God do to us?

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,g and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. – Galatians 5:22

*Tressa Jo

When the Rib Fits Right

20190421_122314I’m sitting here reminiscing with my Shuga about the past year of our journey. One year ago (tomorrow), I made my move to a new city to pursue life with him as his wife. After living in Dallas my entire life, having only experienced failed relationships, I was amazed at the lack of hesitancy I had in moving forward with our relationship and relocating to be with him. Everything about his efforts to pursue me, gave me every reason to say “yes”. We had our first conversation on May 28th, 2017. He came to visit me a month later. After we parted ways that evening, I called my friend Katrina and said “That’s my husband!”. I knew he was the one! Nothing like my past experiences.

I watched, waited and listen for him to contradict himself. He didn’t. I waited for his horny hound dog to surface. It didn’t. I waited for his demeanor to change after he got used to me. It didn’t. I waited, but he stayed the same. And most times, he just kept getting better. He committed to coming to see me once a month initially, but soon after made it every two weeks. He sacrificed his time and his money to make sure he saw me as often as possible.

It was foreign to most people that knew me to see Tressa in a relationship. Almost 11 years of flying solo and being a church girl moma bear is all they knew. So all of the unknowns seemed to have some doubting the validity and soundness of my relationship. Because I was confirmed by the Spirit of God by continuous prayer and submission, I was unapologetic about my relationship, knowing the intricate pieces of the puzzle that God made obvious to me that this man was a gift from Him. I knew what some were saying behind my back. And I have to admit, I was a little disappointed and hurt by a few that I felt would celebrate my relationship but didn’t. They fell back from me and treated me as if I had done something wrong. I fully embraced the fact that people are sometimes so programed to wordly agendas and worldly confirmations, that when the Holy Spirit orchestrates relational unions, they doubt the validity thereof because they can’t confirm that it passes the world’s check list for what makes a marriage work. But my check list was taken from the Book, not the world. ๐Ÿ™‚ Then I realized that sometimes, people’s access to you is more important to them than your growth and happiness. Therefore, I made a decision very early not to ask people for permission to receive what God was, so boldly giving me.

James brought a level a security and consistency into my life that I had never received from any man in my life — not from a father, a brother, a friend or from a previous relationship. And now, a year in a new city and a year and a half married to the man of my prayers (not my dreams), I realize the power of when the rib fits right.

It’s like trying to force the wrong puzzle piece to fit in a place it doesn’t belong. It may look like it belongs but as the puzzle continues to come together, you realize that it didn’t fit and it throws off the entire picture.

Just like Adam’s rib. A specific woman was made from the rib of a specific man. A man can try his hardest to make a woman fit into his life that’s not supposed to be in his life. Likewise, a woman can try her hardest to fit into a man’s life she’s not supposed to fit in. And when it doesn’t fit, it hurts. And sometimes, you don’t realize that the puzzle piece you were trying to fit was never part of your puzzle until you’ve spent too much time hurting trying to create a picture with pieces that don’t even belong together.

But James, my Shuga Boo..

When the rib fits right….

Proverbs 10:23
The blessing of the LORD makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.

*Tressa Jo