Being disappointed by people will cause to you separate yourself from them. But pride will lead you to stay away from them. No man is an island. You will need people. Sometimes you have to humble yourself to ask those that agitate you to help you. Disappointment may have caused your disconnect. But don’t let pride cause your deterioration.
It’s not about being at a level. And I definitely haven’t mastered it myself. I think it’s more about self awareness and realizing that, as humans, we have the propensity to take the shape of our wounds. In essence, we conform to them and allow hurt to shape who we become. It’s an intentional discipline imo. Not easy or natural at all. It’s natural and makes a whole lot of sense for us to want to disconnect from what disappoints us. But we have to always strive to be constantly self aware and test our own spirits so that our hurts don’t bring us into a place of sin/pride. The enemy is always attempting to use our hurts against us. So we have to pay close attention to ourselves when we are hurt, wronged or disappointed by others. Sometimes, we have to realize that our disappointments with others can cause us to separate ourselves from them as a defense mechanism. It’s easier to remove them out of our lives to avoid any more disappointment than it is for us to look beyond their faults to see their needs or to adjust our expectations of them, understanding that you can’t expect to draw water from empty wells. Sometimes, the defense mechanism of having “the gift of goodbye”, as some say, removes our God appointed opportunities for next level spiritual growth and development. I definitely believe in self care and self preservation. But disconnecting from everyone that troubles you may not be effective or conducive to personal growth in the long run. This is why it requires much prayer and petition of the Lord. It’s never just about how you deal with the other person. But it’s always about how you deal.
*Tressa Jo
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